It might come as a surprising statistic, but an estimated one in four known pregnancies in Canada ends in miscarriage. When you really think about it, perhaps it’s not so surprising—most of us either have experienced pregnancy loss or know someone who has. What makes it feel unexpected is how rarely miscarriage is talked about.
After a miscarriage, many women hear well-meaning but painful phrases like “Just try again,” “At least you know you can get pregnant,” or “Be grateful for what you have.” I heard all of these after my first, second, and third losses. Yet none of them acknowledged the truth: miscarriage is an incredibly heartbreaking and isolating experience. The pain is often carried quietly, hidden from view, even though so many of us share it.
When I began writing Our Beautiful Babies Dear: Enduring the Loss of Miscarriage, I was deep in my own grief. Within ten months, I had experienced three losses. With each one, I retreated further into myself, became more depressed, and felt painfully alone. What hurt most wasn’t just that people didn’t know what to say—it was that many said nothing at all. Because miscarriage is invisible to others, it’s often dismissed as an intangible or “less real” loss, leaving so many women feeling unsupported and misunderstood.
I believe it’s vital for women to speak openly about pregnancy loss—to share our stories, break the silence, and connect through empathy. Healing after miscarriage is a long, uneven journey, but it becomes gentler when we know we’re not walking it alone. That’s why I decided to turn my private journal into a published book. I wanted to offer the compassion and understanding I couldn’t find when I needed it most.
Since then, I’ve continued this work—first through volunteer support organizations, and now as a therapist specializing in grief and reproductive loss. My hope is that my story not only helps others heal, but also continues to heal me in the process.
If you or someone you love has experienced miscarriage, I invite you to read Our Beautiful Babies Dear: Enduring the Loss of Miscarriage—a heartfelt companion through the grief, loneliness, and rediscovery that follow pregnancy loss.
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